“It was a stupid thing to ban but Massachusetts finally getting gay weddings in 2004 made a light go off in everyone’s heads here. Suddenly everyone has rainbow stickers and even our conservative synagogue’s new rabbi wanted to officially marry us.”
“And you say that like it’s a bad thing?”
“No, I don’t, thank Goodridge! I like this new world we all have.”
– Shoshanna and Lynn Morgenstern, married in 1994 and legally in 2006.
“Can this be about dinner parties?”
“Don’t be stupid, it totally can.”
“It used to stink being the only unmarried people in the group. I know that some people choose it, but we didn’t have a choice! There were whole conversations we missed out on until we could get married. And then you realize that every group of adults feels like that until you get married.”
“Though it’s funny that being gay married made us feel more at home at church.”
– Bernardo and Scott O’Rourke, married in 2004.
“Ha, you didn’t know me back in the 80’s. Not like I was the only guy to lose my partner, but it’s still the worst thing I had to go through. Then my niece said that it’s better than I didn’t marry Shawn, so we weren’t as close. Excuse me but honey, why? I loved him like a husband and that’s one memory we never got to have. I’m glad I lived to have a second chance at it. If we die in the next five years, there’s a wedding to die remembering. That’s great. I love being an old married man now.”
Marty and Glenn Ellis, married in 2018.
“My dad was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s in 2013, and my heart sunk. We had to go back to Nebraska and I wondered how much of my life was going to be anchored there. What would happen to my marriage? What if I had to work there or take care of my mom afterwards? Nobody stays in one state now.”
– Patrick and Devin Heinz, married in 2012.
“We’re not married yet!”
“But we just saw Robyn and Jhene get married in Arkansas. In Arkansas! Not like we’re moving there but gay people get born in every state. I’m glad to get married now and not before…that court decision…”
“US v Windsor, babe.”
– Dominique Johnson and Cora Barret, to be married in 2020
“No, that one only repealed DOMA,” said Ms. Fields, wedding officiant extraordinaire. “Obergefell gave nationwide marriage rights.”
“Sounds like you know your job,” said Dominique. “Are you making a killing now?”
“Not much more than usual, but I’ve had an enlightening time talking to those I married.” In spite of marriage equality’s more recent legal status, Ms. Fields had been marrying gay couples for decades. It cost her a city clerk job but gained her a lucrative wedding planning and officiant career. And eventually, the tides shifted enough to get her back into City Hall to marry people. She even married many open-minded straight couples who heard about her services. Her weddings were considered inexpensive but heartfelt.
But she had never been married herself. When law was not an issue for it, then finding the right woman was. Even after she met Judy, the years ticked by and Ms. Fields passed 60…and then 65. Judy proposed and she said yes, but Ms. Fields still wasn’t immune to the mental hurdle of being married. She couldn’t even pinpoint why. Even after her tireless defense of same-sex marriage, did she think it was pointless? Maybe. She couldn’t see how her own life would change.
Off to the couples it was, then.
All her favorite couples had advice, and it was like a curtain was lifted. Marty and Glenn were the most right, though; getting married as two old grooms or brides was still worth it. There could be memories and cake. If Ms. Fields had all the legal rights she needed in the world, she still loved those two things too.
It was a warm June 26th, and the fourth anniversary of Obergefell v Hodges. That was a deliberate choice and close to her heart. Ms. Fields would have worn a suit if it wouldn’t make her look like the officiant again. Thankfully a dress kept her cooler for her summer wedding. Planning her own wedding was more difficult than planning for others, but most of the details fell into place.
Ms. Fields invited her favorite couples, who convinced her to join them. But when she saw her officiant–a complete stranger before planning–at the podium, it truly fell into place. In every way, she was no longer alone.
Know your court cases! Goodridge v The Department of Public Health is what legalized same-sex marriage in my own state of Massachusetts (not like I remember any of it, I was 10). Your state or country might have a case to look up of their own.
Even better: you can grab my poses used in this story! Provided you’re a TS3 player of course.